Defining Marriage provides an intimate glimpse into the private lives of those who dreamed of marriage in the 1970s, the survivors of the 1980s, the audacious pioneers of the 1990s, the tireless soldiers of the 2000s, and the champions who won marriage today.

Featuring personal insights from the lives of Evan Wolfson, Dan Savage, Ken Mehlman, Dustin Lance Black, and many more, Defining Marriage is the story of how people from all walks of life fought to change marriage -- and how fighting for marriage, in turn, changed them.

Now out in Paperback

Defining Marriage traces the decades-long evolution of marriage through the personal stories of those who lived through it. 


Available as an eBook

Read the complete, unabridged book on any device: iPad, Kindle, phone, desktop and laptop. 


Unabridged Audiobook

Listen to Defining Marriage as read by the author. Listen for free on Amazon/Audible with a 30-day free trial!


The Free Companion Podcast

This is the complete audiobook version of the book Defining Marriage, available to listen to for free. For the first 18 episodes, I read one new chapter of the book every week, complete and unabridged. Stick around after each chapter for a discussion between me and some special guests, including screenwriter and activist Dustin Lance Black, Congressman Barney Frank, Kate Kendell of the National Center for Lesbian Rights, and many more. 

Following the first 18 episodes, the podcast is a casual chat between me and my partner James, recapping marriage equality news around the world.